Be Mine

I was going to save this subject for Valentines Day, but why wait? It may be too late then. Some man may actually screw up his relationship because he doesn't "believe" in Valentines day, he did a piss poor job, or he simply forgot.

To my understanding, most men don't really care too much for Valentines day due to financial reasons or some think it's a pointless holiday. I mean, we've all heard the excuse, "Baby, it's just pointless. I don't need one day out of the year to tell you I love you. I love you 365". Ok, maybe that was just something Uncle Phil said on an episode of the Fresh Prince, but nonetheless, that excuse has been used before. Now, while I totally agree with the previous statement guys should understand it's a chic holiday. So no matter if it's a money issue or if you think it's dumb, just do it. I'll even let you know a little secret: Women know that this holiday doesn't necessarily mean it's the only day men can express their love for them. Hell, half the time the couple aren't even in love, it's just something to do because they are now a couple. Consider it like a birthday or Christmas. We know we can ask our significant other to buy us something in the middle of June, but these are just designated days to make it special. Every woman dating or married to a man would love to have flowers and balloons and all that other sweet crap sent to their office just so everyone can see that someone really "loves" them(I say "love" because no amount of flower and balloons can really show ones love for another) unless they're dating that odd guy in the mail room who for some reason always smell like bengay. If it's a money issue and you think you have to send a limo to pick your woman up from work, take her to a five star restaurant, four star hotel,3 dozen roses, 2 bottles of champagne an a partridge in a pear tree ( sorry, I had to) maybe you can get a little bit more creative and cut out all the cliche stuff. Also if you want to save some bucks with the cliche and a nice dinner, do what a pal of mine did last year. Men, if you don't already do this, you will thank me and women will hate me for putting this out there. But hell, we're in a recession (Yes, I am one of those people who will milk this recession thing til the very end)! My pal waited to buy his Valentines Day stuff the day after Valentines day. Cheap maybe, but she was away at school and he wasn't going to see her that day anyways. I'm not mad at him. He saved at least 15 to 50% off! Now, of course all men won't be able achieve such a thing. But for those of you who can maneuver your way to do something, like "I gotta work late, but I promise tomorrow will be special" or "My uncle is sick and I gotta go out of town with the fam". If you don't want to jinx one of your uncles, say it's your great uncle who's already dead. But please note that us women folk are sneaky beautiful creatures. We WILL go to your job to make sure you're working late (so be at work) and we WILL drive by your crib to make sure you're not there ( so kick it with someone your girl wouldn't look. And please answer the phone when we call so we can verify you're not spending this day with another chic). If the previous seems like too much of a hassle, then just get creative with the cliches. We like romantic stuff. Hell, my mom thinks it's sweet if my dad cooks and cleans for one day out of a leap year!! Now, I could give you creative advice on how to be sweet and romantic on a budget, but you don't want to go by my judgement. I like odd stuff. One of the greatest compliments I got most recently was an up and coming rapper telling me that I know hip hop(If you know me, you know I have a sick passion for hip hop and for someone to acknowledge my knowledge, well, it makes me wanna cry) and I'm always content with dinner and a movie. Also, if you do subtle things throughout the year, you won't have to go all out this one day. Your woman just may be pleased with flowers sent to the job ( I can't plug that enough fellas! Women want other women to see that. In the words of one of my friend, she want's "for those bitches to be hating")! That's how we are. I hope this help you next week and hey you never know, she may thank you by doing that thing she said she would never do! If you didn't find this to be useful, don't you dare judge me!