For years the question of why teenage girls, especially those in the urban community, continue to get pregnant even when knowing the consequences, has been irking my friends and me for a while now. Actually to the point of where I felt the need to do a documentary on teenage pregnancy. Now, of course, we are not judging, but it jingle jangles our minds that a young girl would think it’s “cool” or “ok” to have a kid or sex for that matter while in high school. Now, if you ask the average closed-minded person the reason for this, it would be because most young black girls don’t have a father in the home and they’re just looking for attention from a man. We all know this is sad and true, but I cannot accept this as the only answer. Or if you ask my grandmother, it’s because these young girls don’t go to church. I probably would have accepted these “answers” alone if I didn’t see teenagers in my own church with fathers who were prominent members of the church get knocked up before the age of 18. And when I say prominent, I mean, deacons, elders (haven’t caught the preachers daughter yet, but she’ll get her turn. LOL! Ok, bad joke. Bad joke) bishops and whatever other role that not just another member of the church, respectively. These girls went to church WAY more than my usually every Sunday or every other Wednesday night. So, this fact can hush up any theory of girls from broken homes or girls who weren’t raised in the church are likely to get pregnant. This weekend, I thought about my sexual experiences from high school to today and the reason hit me and I think my theory could stand up in the trial of “ fatherless, non-Christian, urban girl VS not getting knocked up”.
The truth is, we all know sex before marriage just aint right. But as humans we have needs. And ladies we’ve all been there. Imagine this: You’re 17. You’re with the hottest guy you know. He’s actually showing YOU some attention. Not that other “miss thang” who thinks she is just “too cute, boo boo”, but he’s with you! He’s “really interested” in what you have to say and he actually thinks you’re funny. So next thing you know you two are “fencing” with your tongues, the panting gets heavier and all of sudden his brush is digging into your rib! Oh snap! You realize that aint his brush in his pocket and that aint hair gel in your Hanes cotton underwear! I guarantee, for most girls the last thing on their mind in this situation is their father or even Jesus. I mean, it’s on their mind, but this feeling is much stronger, so you continue letting him “brush your hair” until you reach that…”ah”. Now this description wasn’t aimed at urban girls without fathers. This is the average teenage girl. All teenagers (and women) just want to be desired. No matter where you live or if dad is a few feet away or few child support payments away.
So let me take you to the other side of the tracks. The “good” side. Rebecca (Becky) does live with both parents. Becky is dating Connor, the captain of the water polo team. Becky and Connor both come from families with a good financial background. Both get an allowance. Both have insurance so they both go to the doctor when needed. Now that we got the background check, let’s fast forward to the junior prom. They both already done mixed the “paint brush” with the “wet paint”. That’s a done deal. They are both satisfied with the out”come”. LOL! Anywho, even though they did use a new pack of Trojans condoms, Connor didn’t know how to put it on properly so of course, Becky is now pregnant. She doesn’t mind keeping the baby, but her mothers finds this to be a disgrace and Connors parents would be damned if that kid came between their sons water polo scholarship to Duke. So both parents agree, the baby would be aborted and that Becky will get her fast ass on birth control. The patch (just so her ass wouldn’t forget). End of story.
You can probably figure out what’s going on on the other side of the tracks. Monique (Nikki) lives with her 3 little brothers and mom who worked as an assistant mgr at KFC with no insurance. She loved her kids dearly and made sure they were at the community church WEEKLY! Nikki meets up with Jabari during third period in one of the practice rooms in the band hall. Now, Jabari does have an old magnum Trojan that his big brother gave him 2 years ago for his 14th birthday that he’ll use. But after he beats her drum with his drumstick, he still doesn’t realize that the condom broke. Oh, but you bets believe Nikki told him she was 2 football games late of her period. He didn’t care. By then he moved on to the next band girl, LaTiqua (pronounced Luh-Tee-Kuh). Nikki’s mom was devastated. She would have aborted the baby, but that would have taken the families dinner money for the month. So she figured, she’d keep the baby because it would love her and it would bring in some extra money from the government to help her family survive. And since they didn’t have insurance for birth control, Nikki was soon pregnant again by graduation.
Now, you’re probably thinking, “Dang Kid!! That was harsh!” Maybe, but that’s society. I refuse to believe that only urban girls are out having sex. But I do believe due to their financially status and lack of resource for safe protection, they are likely to get pregnant and keep the baby. This is sad, but these are facts. Those with more money are likely to either abort a baby, adoption or have the revenue for the right sources to prevent this from happening. So in conclusion, it’s not girls without fathers, per se. It’s horny girls everywhere, but those with more financial stability can make better choices. Regardless of what you may think, “What you eat, doesn’t make me shit”, so don’t you dare judge.
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