Bootleggin' girls

This piece was inspired by a note I received that basically discussed how women should be patient and wait for the right guy that God will send. Now, I have nothing against that theory because we really have no other choice…or do we? I mean, we can be patient or we can be bootlegging girls. The analysis I will use will describe a woman’s patience and worth as being compared to music.

So you’re on the street and you’re walking, you’re walking and BAMM!!! Out of nowhere someone offers you that new Vanilla Ice mix tape for 3 bucks! Now, you’re not interested at first, but then they’re like, “I’ll also throw in MC Hammers greatest hits and you’ll get both for 5 dollars”! Ok, so you’re really not looking to buy either one, but damn, for five dollars, how can you turn that down?! Some girls can be the same way with men. They see what looks like an opportunity to meet someone, but they give “it” up so easily, the man is distracted from going for what he really wants and needs in a woman. Which is similar to how the music industry is failing. Back in ‘94 when we were interested in an artist, we used to go to Target, get the music we want and if you’re anything like me, you’d rush home to read the credits, view the pictures and all the other stuff that comes with the music. Now, we have less respect for the music industry (or in this case relationships and marriage) and we’ll just get everything bootleg, as a man will do women. Instead of investing time and effort to learn more about a woman he’s genuinely interested in, he simply gets the tacky bootleg copy for it’s purpose, music (or sex in this manner) and doesn’t bother to learn who produced this woman, where is she from, and, well, I think you get the picture.

Marriage, especially in the black community is going down hill like the music industry. Why in the hell would a man take you serious and be in a relationship with you or marry you when there are other chics putting it out like a dog that just pissed on the furniture. Now, I really, I mean REALLY wanted to call this piece “bootlegged hoe’s” but, I know that us women are not perfect and plenty of us have thrown ourselves at men who really aren’t interested but we aren’t hoes, right? I mean, spontaneity and promiscuity is cool sometimes, but ladies can we try to love a guy or at least be in a relationship with him before we put out the goods as soon as a guy smiles or winks at us? Please take heed to what I’m about to quote. This did not come out of a Cosmo magazine or the new Tyler Perry film. A grown man told me this…face to face. “Men really do want a challenge”. Now, I’m not saying diss him when he calls or play “impossible to get”, but damn, if he tries to hit on date 2, make him wait a little longer. Hell to the naw he wont like it, but he will respect you. He will respect you the same way you will buy an artist album “if you really like them”. Yall know we have all used that line before, “ I don’t always buy bootleg. I’ll buy a cd if I really like that artist”. SMH. I’m not judging, because I have more bootlegs than a mannequin in the winter. All I’m saying is don’t be the bootlegging girl that allows men off the hook from being married and in a serious relationship with women because they can get in where they fit in with someone else.

You may not agree with my point of view, but you can kick rocks in your Nike flip-flops if you dare judge me!