"Imma use self control instead of birth control..."

“Cuz, $315 aint worth your soul. $315 aint worth it” So I’m in my ride riding, listening to my ipod on shuffle( which is the new “satellite radio” for those who cant stand public radio anymore ) and I came across “retrospect for Life” by Lonnie Lynne, also known as Common and the song featured songstress Lauryn Hill. I’ve never been in the situation that some women have as they pace back and forth in their minds as to whether they want to keep the human growing in their womb or do they want to turn it their womb into a tomb, but the this song did touch me on a higher level. I guess it gives me a different retrospect of life. Common raps on abortion coming from a then 25 year olds point of view. Hot damn, he made his point and the dude is more dope than dopey and his bitch snow white! I love the line “ I’m gonna use self control instead of birth control” because he shows that as humans we still have the responsibility to control our actions. Having sex with protection doesn’t make it anymore ok than a person driving reckless just because they have on their seat belt. As humans WE LOVE SEX! Right? We love to have GOOD sex, right?.We love to hear that our peers had great sex last night, right? But when someone gets knocked up out of wedlock, they’re doomed to hell, right? Now, don’t get it twisted like pig curls, I am pro choice (maybe I shouldn't be that proud to say), but I think it should be done in a responsible matter (victims of rape, teenage pregnancy, etc), not just because you don’t want a kid. I mean, I don’t think having a kid is the worst possible outcome of having sex. Ever had sex and you don’t stay with that person so you’re left broken hearted (which is the worst kind of pain, next to a toothache) or even an STD (It’s a brand new day!) If anything having a kid is a blessing whether you see it that way or not. I’m not sure what your faith is or even if you have one, but I believe in God and the Bible clearly states, “Do not Kill.” And I think somewhere in there it says a woman should be a virgin until she’s married. But who’s following that law in 2009? No one. But not once in the Bible does it say “if a woman should have a baby before she is married, may she is to kill the baby and continue to fornicate with strangers of the world” (Ricky Bobby 12:3). So why is abortion such an easy cop out? Is it money? True story: My parents had a baby boy who was planned. They damn near cried when they found out about my coming because they were dirt poor eating beans everyday and could barely take care of each other. But God made a way and as conceited as this sounds, I AM the best thing to happen to my family! I guess it all boils down to faith. I think if one has faith, they can do anything (how cheesy could that last sentence be?).Now, I can understand being a single parent is hard, but damnit, I think it’s just as hard with two people. There was a time when it was shameful to have a kid out of wedlock and in todays society some still view it that way. I can understand that, but I don’t think the shame “back in the day” was the pregnant woman per se, it was the fact that the woman or girl was even having sex. That was the shameful part. Because what she did in the dark came to the light. Now days, we talk about our sex life all the time and how fucking good it is, so why are we so shocked when we find out that someone is pregnant? Of course you want to have two parents but it doesn’t always work out that way. Would it be better if the parents got married, argued all the time and then divorced leaving someone to be a single parent anyway? I literally can go on for pages about this, but please peep the video and check the lyrics, Common handled his business. Now yall know I'm not the one to dare judge, but handle your business responisbly.






**Fun fact: Common did this song while his girlfriend was pregnant and Lauryn hopped on the track because the song hit her close to home because being on that superstar status, all her music advisors were advising her to not have her son and choose music first. Selfish bastards.